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Mounting anger 
9th-Jul-2008 06:34 am
Ok...this has got to be addressed. My stress level over what shouldn't be an issue is making me sick.

I got my desk in on Monday. It makes the entire area look finished and professional. It takes up less space than the what was there before. It was the "right thing to do."

So why do I have to put up with shit like hearing that my desk is piled with bags of popcorn bought for an event scheduled for next Wednesday? Why wasn't anyone else's desk used like this? What on this good earth would make this seem like acceptable, appropriate behavior?

Why does it seem that I am in a territorial war?

How the hell do I deal with this in a manner where I can keep my cool when I want to go in there and start slinging this shit into my manager's office since there's plenty of room in there to store it.

How do I come out looking like the adult and not the damned victim?

Can I just call in sick of the nonsense?

I seem to be having a run of cowards in my life who won't address issues head on.
9th-Jul-2008 07:28 am (UTC)
Sounds as if someone found a "convenient" place to dump them... How about putting them somewhere (even if it's the bathroom *g*) and when they ask you either why they're there or where they are, just smile sweetly and say you thought you were supposed to find a storage space for them since they were on your desk? And keep disappearing things people put on your desk that shouldn't be there. They will have to find another place to dump their shit, since your desk stops being convenient.

(My Slytherin is shining through?)
9th-Jul-2008 07:43 am (UTC) - Oh yeah!
I like it. I like it LOTS!
Let the games begin!
9th-Jul-2008 08:12 am (UTC) - Re: Oh yeah!
I have been around so much passive-aggressive shit that I had to learn how to deal with them in a way they understand. Not pretty, but it works. (and can even be a little amusing, as opposed to just feeling aggravated)
9th-Jul-2008 08:05 am (UTC)
I was going to suggest declaring, with a dramatic sigh, that there isn't enough room there for you to work so you're going to have to work from home, but I think I like this idea even better!

keep disappearing things people put on your desk that shouldn't be there

Yeah, that's a winner! :)
9th-Jul-2008 08:11 am (UTC)
It also gives the perfect opening to honestly ask them why they put the things on the desk if they didn't want her to do anything with them. A confrontation where *they* will look like the non-adults, because the question is legit.
9th-Jul-2008 09:09 am (UTC)
Clearly you are leaving your desk too tidy if they can't resist the temptation to put stuff on it. Why not line it with industrial adhesive or leave those automotive spikes they use to keep cars from backing up on your desk on the days you aren't there? :)

Is the stuff still there are on the days you come in? If they are just leaving it there when you are gone, I wouldn't be too offended. If you actually have to move it yourself when you come in, that's an issue.

Maybe you should leave a passive aggressive note on your desk?

Or, start listing your "treasures" on eBay. Yeah, I like that the best.

"Where did the _______ go?"

"Um.....Nevada, I think? Or was that where I sent the stapler?"
9th-Jul-2008 11:54 am (UTC)
Your sentence was perfectly grammatically sound, but my brain keeps constructing this: "leave those automotive spikes...to keep cars from backing up on your desk on the days you aren't there", and the image rather amuses me.

I vote for the disappearing method. Or - well, bags and bags of popcorn are hard to eat in a day, but next time they put something on your desk like, say, hundreds of post-it pads, act delighted at the freebies and take 'em home for your own use.
9th-Jul-2008 12:12 pm (UTC)
Yeah, my pre-coffee brain was not that eloquent this morning. :)
9th-Jul-2008 04:15 pm (UTC)
I'd move the bags, right to the floor, preferably in someone else's way. If asked then you HAD to clear off your desk, I mean, you can't work with it covered now can you? Wouldn't be very productive that way. *wink, wink* and if they don't like where it is, let them move it out of their way just like you did.
10th-Jul-2008 07:51 am (UTC)
You and I are cut from the same cloth *nods*

That's very close to how I handled it. I'm making a new post detailing her behavior yesterday. She must have a miserable home life to be so petty.
9th-Jul-2008 06:57 pm (UTC)
I don't know if the bad news about the economy is making everyone act squirrely or what, but it sounds like you and I work in parallel universes.

A very similar thing happened to me. I try not to let it bother me.

Is it one person who keeps getting on your last nerve, or is it just the office in general?

There's a big difference between the two. I work with a very difficult person, but knowing that everyone else feels the same way towards her, and that the other people I work with have my back is probably why I am able to dismiss her behavior.

I would just address the person this way: "Please don't put stuff on my desk." Neutral expression. No complaining, no explaining, as Princess Grace once said.

Just approach it in as zen-like a way as you can, baby. Leave your passion and creativity for your awesome life that you live. I am floored by all that you know and make and do.
10th-Jul-2008 07:56 am (UTC)
I think the bad news about the economy is underscored in the financial business place. So that is a factor. Also, this person does not handle stress well and we have some huge events coming up that need her attention and instead of delegating appropriately, she spends her day all wound up and stressing. She has an amazing team of people to support the events, but she won't believe in us, despite how well we take care of all the details.

It is only one person causing this distress. Unfortunately, she's my manager.

I did, in fact, just remove the material and put it in a box without any sense of anger. My actions were interpretted by her as "she got in trouble" and she tried to tell our CEO that, but I calmly stopped her as she tried and said "Nancy, you did -not- get in trouble" and leveled a look at her that said "I am your equal, not your chew toy."
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