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Outside my comfort zone, and our Ohio cousins are WEIRD. 
18th-Jan-2009 09:42 am
Rice Boy w/Flower
Spent the day with family, mostly at the funeral home. It's a quirky, opinionated group that I love with all my heart. The normal 45 minute ride home took well over 90 minutes in occasionally blizzard-like conditions. Taking the expressway was worse than the surface roads. Nothing was plowed. I want to put those people in charge who decided that we didn't have the money to clear the snow on those roads. ok...I need to just let that part go.

There have been a handful of times in my life where I was asked to do something where I felt truly honored and in awe that I was asked. * Being asked to author a series of books based on an outline I submitted because of the name I made for myself in the technology training industry. * Being asked to go to FLETC and teach the IRS drug bust team how to hack into a Novell server without harming data. * Being asked to stand up in batty_'s wedding and give a blessing.

From last night I have a new experience to add to that deeply special list. Brian's dad asked me to read the eulogy he wrote for Tudy. It was a beautiful and charming tribute to her, but he couldn't get through reading it once he wrote it. We got there yesterday just as they were letting everyone in to see her, and the moment they composed themselves, they asked if I would do it. He said that Tudy was adamant that he write the eulogy for her.

Now, I don't do well at funerals. I feel everyone's pain quite acutely. It's something I've always struggled with. I empathically put myself in everyone's shoes and find myself in sometimes debilitating tears. It's worse if I care a lot for the person who's funeral it is. So I felt a little like a deer in headlights being asked. But I love his dad so much that I'd do anything to make him proud. So I sucked it up and delivered the eulogy after the Knights of Columbus led the rosary service.

Later, everyone in Tudy's immediate family, and Brian's thanked me for doing a beautiful job. I know my voice shook with emotion, but I am so glad that I had the opportunity to do this. Brian says Tudy would have been pleased.
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18th-Jan-2009 02:03 pm (UTC)
I'm exactly the same way with funerals - even if I didn't know the person very well. I always remember a time when I felt suffocating sadness - my grandmother's funeral - and I always seem to feel for the people at the funeral who are feeling that same way.
18th-Jan-2009 03:11 pm (UTC)
I'm the same way too. I cried at Craig's cousin's funeral a week ago, and I'd never met the guy. My heart was breaking fro Craig's aunt and her husband though.

I'm sure you did a fabulous job of reading the eulogy, and that Tudy was grateful for your heartfelt participation.
18th-Jan-2009 04:31 pm (UTC)
<3
18th-Jan-2009 07:39 pm (UTC)
and this is why people ask you to do such things. because it will come from you in earnest and with feeling, and not half assed.
18th-Jan-2009 11:44 pm (UTC)
*hug* It is an honor, isn't it? So glad you had the chance to have someone so special in your life!
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