Just spent a week with my folks. It was a good trip. There were a few things I learned that I need to remember.
- Stress can kill you slowly and painfully.
- I think that anger can be addicting. Most addictions degrade your life and health, this one is no different.
- Most anger just isn’t worth it. Let it go.
- A lifetime of holding on to your anger can actually cause your heart so much stress that it starts to fail. For me, this is a genetic reality. I do not want the people and situations that have made my life challenging and difficult to be what ultimately kills me.
- Anger can make you look petty and foolish.
- The people you let in to see your anger can see that you are only telling your side of the story. It’s part of being an observer, that you can see what the angry person is blinded to. Behaving like a frustrated 5 year old doesn’t further your case, and most likely, makes people pity you in the embarrassing way.
- “The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget.” – Thomas Szasz
- That has always rung true to me, but now I think it needs modification. “; the healthy remember only the lesson, not every gory detail.”
I think I have been shown a fork in the road. I will take the path on the right and try with all my might to not wander off into the weeds as often. It just could increase my quality of life now…and 20 years from now.
Originally published at Stage 3: bohemian. You can comment here or there.