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18th-Jan-2011 05:49 am
Dragon Fly
So...I did take a couple of soundbites away from the presentation yesterday.

After letting in percolate in my brainpan overnight, here's the non-sarcastic version.

Stress is a choice.

I am struggling with a seemingly favorite saying that folks are starting to repeat. "If you can't change the situation, change how you think about it."

At what point do you make the determination that you can't change the situation? If the situation is that the customer keep making a common mistake, then couldn't the solution be to find a way to teach the customer in a way that they respond to and remember? If I just choose to accept that they will always make the mistake and not let it cause me stress, then haven't I given up too soon?

If I have a problem with someone's attitude, and everyone tells me that that's just the way they behave with everyone, then who am I really doing a disservice to if I choose to change the way I think about that abuse? Because, really...how is my choice to not let it stress me making a bit of difference in the world? It's akin to giving them my permission to behave shitty to me again in the future.

Stress is a choice, but it is not always a bad choice. It's pain...and if I remember correctly, what made more of a difference to us as children? Hearing that the stove was hot, or experiencing the pain?

Again, everything in moderation. I own my stress. I can manage how big or little it gets. That's what I am taking away from yesterday. Not that I don't have to feel stress...that's not realistic despite the lofty words and attitudes of a motivational speaker.

I get to be the one to choose my battles.
18th-Jan-2011 02:08 pm (UTC)
One thing that comes up a lot in natural birth literature is that pain is trying to tell you something. Like when my midwife wanted me to squat and push I had intense pain when I tried. It wasn't until later that I remembered I had trouble with my pubic bone separating and would have injured myself birthing in that position. Pain told me what my brain couldn't see. Stress can do that too. It can tell you it's time to change you position or it can tell you to keep on with what you're doing.
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